Detaching with love doesn’t mean that you stop loving the other person. It means that you make a decision to back up and stop putting all of your time and energy focusing on someone else. It means not allowing the drama of someone else’s mental illness to destroy your life. Detaching with love is less harsh and more flexible than tough love. We don’t step in and take responsibility for our loved ones behavior. They must deal with the natural consequences of that behavior while we learn how to make wise choices rather than react out of anxiety, fear, and anger.
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